Going back to school can be a stressful time for children and families. There may be big changes like switching to a new school or having more than one Teacher. Children who learn and think differently can be particularly anxious about keeping up or fitting in. 

If your child is anxious or worried leading up to the start of school, we’ve put together a couple of tips to help.

Talk about the transition

It’s important for your child to know you’re there to listen and help problem-solve. Find a time to talk when your child is relatively calm. (Avoid times such as when your child is upset or getting ready for school.) Here are some things you can say.

“Let’s think of ways I can help make going back easier for you.”

For example, you might pack a special snack or walk your child to the classroom (if allowed) on the first few days. But make it clear that staying home from school just because your child doesn’t want to go, isn’t an option.

“What do you like about school?”

Talk about good memories from previous years. Highlight these positive moments and use them as a reminder that school can be rewarding and fun.

“Is there anything in particular about this school year that’s worrying you?”

Is your child anxious about keeping up? Getting along with Teachers? Making friends? Getting bullied? Talking about your child’s specific concerns can help you find specific solutions.

“I see that you’re anxious about school. But I believe in you and I’m here to help.”

Projecting a sense of confidence and understanding may seem like a small thing. But when children know that you know what they’re going through, it can make a big difference.

Don’t react to tantrums

Sometimes, anxiety can lead to angry outbursts. If your child has a tantrum about going back to school, try to stay calm and avoid getting angry or upset. This can be hard to do in the moment, but it makes a huge difference.

Tantrums are an attention-seeking behaviour and it’s best to ignore them, then praise your child when you see calmer behaviour. Later, ask when would be a good time to talk about why your child was upset.

Start switching into school mode early

Waiting until the last minute to change schedules and routines can make some children feel more anxious, not less. Start the process before the school year begins.

• Practice morning and evening routines. Move to a school-year schedule in advance (ideally a few weeks early, but no less than one week). That includes school wake-up times, bedtimes, and mealtimes.
• Get everything in order ahead of time. Gather needed school supplies at least one week before school starts. Work on organising your child’s backpack or bookbag. And get to know the class schedule if you have it.
• Give your child choices. Have your child pick out what they’d like for ‘back-to-school’ breakfast or choose their favourite meals for dinner on their first week back. Having a choice gives kids a sense of control and excitement about school. (With younger kids, you can pick out a few options and let them decide.)
• Reach out to others for support. Try to set up a time for your child and a classmate to play before the school year starts. It’s a good opportunity for you, too. Talking with other families about their own back-to-school struggles and successes is a reminder that you’re not alone.

The team and Caring Services hope that you and your children had the best 7 weeks of Summer and wish your little ones the best of luck as they head back to school.